Are you feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, and over-extended?
If you are like many work-from-home moms, yesterday was rough. You were interrupted by children (and maybe even your significant other), while you were on the phone with potential customers- EVERY…SINGLE…CALL. You walked into a room to break up a fight between 2 or more of your children and it looked like a tornado blew through, trashing anything in its path. You started your day feeling behind and not really sure where to even start with your business activities. Lastly, if you have a spouse, he/she probably acted as if you were depriving him of quality time- you know… AFTER you spent your day doing several business tasks, breaking up fights, cleaning up messes, putting bandages on non-existent wounds, cooking 3 meals for your family which you wish had been more elaborate but you did not have that extra time in your day.
Breathe, Supermom, breathe. It will be OK.
You can get through this by starting with a set daily routine. The key is to be consistent with the routine and leave some breathing room in your schedule.
Before you say, “I don’t have time for breathing room”, or think about the times you have designed a routine that didn’t work out, hear me out. I get where you are coming from and you are partially right. The difference between possible failed attempts at planning a daily routine and this way of planning your routine is your approach to the design and implementation.
Let’s start with the benefits of having a consistent routine:
- It helps children organize their thoughts better.
- It helps you organize your thoughts better.
- It ensures that the important things get done.
- By knowing what you did every day for a week, you can review your week and see what worked and what didn’t, including results in your general sense of well-being, as well as sales and other business-tracking matrix. Then, you can re-design your routine bit by bit, to ensure you get the most out of your time spent working.
- By knowing what to expect, your kids know that they will get X amount of time with you at X time of the day. You are probably already giving your children plenty of 1 on 1 attention but, by planning it for a specific time of day, each day, you are being proactive and drawing your children’s attention to the fact that you are making time just for them. This will make them feel special and it squashes attention-seeking behavior.
- By having a consistent routine, you ensure that you are making time for self-care, which will help replenish the energy depletion you might be experiencing, due to a high amount of time spent taking care of those around you and running a business.
There are plenty of other benefits, but I know you are pressed on time, so I will get right to the actions you can take RIGHT NOW to develop a solid routine.
The first step is to schedule time for daily self-care. Don’t allow this to overwhelm you. You can always tweak what you do, each day, as you get into the habit of taking time for yourself. While you might feel like you need to add 20 things to your daily beauty regimen, depending upon what you do for work and what type of products you are selling, this might not be necessary.
Because of that, the best thing you can do when designing a self-care routine is to decide if you feel like you have any missing self-care activities, such as:
- meditation or quiet reflection
- getting enough sleep
- eating right
Again, don’t over-complicate this. We will discuss self-care in another post, and you can read previous posts I’ve written on self-care, but, overall, remember to keep it simple.
The second step is to schedule time for the things you need to do, in order to care for your children. This is NOT to say that you aren’t already caring for them. You clearly care about them, or you wouldn’t be reading this. The reason I say to schedule time for this is that, by putting it into a schedule, you have a visual of how much time you have left over after you do all of your daily essential tasks. Include things like feeding them, bathing them, bedtime routines, etc. You know what you do to care for them. Let’s just put it in writing.
The third step is to add time for one-on-one time with each child and your spouse. You can schedule as much time as you want, but keep in mind that the average attention span for children, in minutes, is equal to their age. For example, you can hold the attention of a 1-year-old for about 1 minute. Also keep in mind that this stops at around age 8. The average attention span of an adult is 8 seconds- less than a goldfish! Obviously, you won’t schedule only 8 minutes with your significant other because you know you can hold his attention for longer than that. I suggest scheduling multiple short amounts of time with your toddlers and young children, up to age 4. After that, allow 15 minutes for each child over age 4 and an hour for your spouse. The hour with your spouse might include whatever the two of you like to do to wind down after putting your kids to bed. That’s why it’s an hour. You can schedule longer blocks with your children over age 8, if you prefer, but a minimum of 15 minutes will get the message across that you are making time for them.
The fourth step is to add on your work activities. Having a theme for each day is helpful. For instance, Monday’s are a great day to review the previous week and use that data to plan the current week.
Remember to do things at the same time, each day. Consistency is key to making this work and it WILL work. You might not see results overnight, but you will see them quickly.
TIP: Don’t tell your spouse that you have set aside time, just for him, because you think he needs it. If he asks about the sudden change in the way you are doing things, tell him that you have decided that you wanted to design a routine that starts with scheduling in time for each of the people you love most. The reason not to tell him is that some spouses will be a little sensitive and believe that you only want to spend time with him because you think he needs it, and not that you are doing it because you enjoy spending time with him.
If you loved this post and would like to read more, check out my website at dellascoachingandmore.com. Come back next week for my super-easy tip to help you get some relaxation and a break from fighting and/or acting out kiddos.
Sending you positive vibes,