If you are feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, and over-extended, doing this 1 thing could drastically improve your day.

Are you feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, and over-extended?

If you are like many work-from-home moms, yesterday was rough. You were interrupted by children (and maybe even your significant other), while you were on the phone with potential customers- EVERY…SINGLE…CALL. You walked into a room to break up a fight between 2 or more of your children and it looked like a tornado blew through, trashing anything in its path. You started your day feeling behind and not really sure where to even start with your business activities. Lastly, if you have a spouse, he/she probably acted as if you were depriving him of quality time- you know… AFTER you spent your day doing several business tasks, breaking up fights, cleaning up messes, putting bandages on non-existent wounds, cooking 3 meals for your family which you wish had been more elaborate but you did not have that extra time in your day.

Breathe, Supermom, breathe. It will be OK.

You can get through this by starting with a set daily routine. The key is to be consistent with the routine and leave some breathing room in your schedule.

Before you say, “I don’t have time for breathing room”, or think about the times you have designed a routine that didn’t work out, hear me out. I get where you are coming from and you are partially right. The difference between possible failed attempts at planning a daily routine and this way of planning your routine is your approach to the design and implementation.

Let’s start with the benefits of having a consistent routine:

  • It helps children organize their thoughts better.
  • It helps you organize your thoughts better.
  • It ensures that the important things get done.
  • By knowing what you did every day for a week, you can review your week and see what worked and what didn’t, including results in your general sense of well-being, as well as sales and other business-tracking matrix. Then, you can re-design your routine bit by bit, to ensure you get the most out of your time spent working.
  • By knowing what to expect, your kids know that they will get X amount of time with you at X time of the day. You are probably already giving your children plenty of 1 on 1 attention but, by planning it for a specific time of day, each day, you are being proactive and drawing your children’s attention to the fact that you are making time just for them. This will make them feel special and it squashes attention-seeking behavior.
  • By having a consistent routine, you ensure that you are making time for self-care, which will help replenish the energy depletion you might be experiencing, due to a high amount of time spent taking care of those around you and running a business.

There are plenty of other benefits, but I know you are pressed on time, so I will get right to the actions you can take RIGHT NOW to develop a solid routine.

The first step is to schedule time for daily self-care. Don’t allow this to overwhelm you. You can always tweak what you do, each day, as you get into the habit of taking time for yourself. While you might feel like you need to add 20 things to your daily beauty regimen, depending upon what you do for work and what type of products you are selling, this might not be necessary.

Because of that, the best thing you can do when designing a self-care routine is to decide if you feel like you have any missing self-care activities, such as:

  • meditation or quiet reflection
  • getting enough sleep
  • exercise
  • eating right

Again, don’t over-complicate this. We will discuss self-care in another post, and you can read previous posts I’ve written on self-care, but, overall, remember to keep it simple.

The second step is to schedule time for the things you need to do, in order to care for your children. This is NOT to say that you aren’t already caring for them. You clearly care about them, or you wouldn’t be reading this. The reason I say to schedule time for this is that, by putting it into a schedule, you have a visual of how much time you have left over after you do all of your daily essential tasks. Include things like feeding them, bathing them, bedtime routines, etc. You know what you do to care for them. Let’s just put it in writing.

The third step is to add time for one-on-one time with each child and your spouse. You can schedule as much time as you want, but keep in mind that the average attention span for children, in minutes, is equal to their age. For example, you can hold the attention of a 1-year-old for about 1 minute. Also keep in mind that this stops at around age 8. The average attention span of an adult is 8 seconds- less than a goldfish! Obviously, you won’t schedule only 8 minutes with your significant other because you know you can hold his attention for longer than that. I suggest scheduling multiple short amounts of time with your toddlers and young children, up to age 4. After that, allow 15 minutes for each child over age 4 and an hour for your spouse. The hour with your spouse might include whatever the two of you like to do to wind down after putting your kids to bed. That’s why it’s an hour. You can schedule longer blocks with your children over age 8, if you prefer, but a minimum of 15 minutes will get the message across that you are making time for them.

The fourth step is to add on your work activities. Having a theme for each day is helpful. For instance, Monday’s are a great day to review the previous week and use that data to plan the current week.

Remember to do things at the same time, each day. Consistency is key to making this work and it WILL work. You might not see results overnight, but you will see them quickly.

TIP: Don’t tell your spouse that you have set aside time, just for him, because you think he needs it. If he asks about the sudden change in the way you are doing things, tell him that you have decided that you wanted to design a routine that starts with scheduling in time for each of the people you love most. The reason not to tell him is that some spouses will be a little sensitive and believe that you only want to spend time with him because you think he needs it, and not that you are doing it because you enjoy spending time with him.

If you loved this post and would like to read more, check out my website at dellascoachingandmore.com. Come back next week for my super-easy tip to help you get some relaxation and a break from fighting and/or acting out kiddos.

Sending you positive vibes,

Della

On Earth, oil, and a prickly virus

HAPPY EARTH DAY, EVERYONE!!!

I love the idea of people globally connecting to find ways to save the world and, in turn, the generations to come. The fact is that we can all contribute to the problem or the solution. The choice is ours and, although it’s not a simple choice because it involves changing the way we live, it is probably one of the most important challenges we face. What we are doing today not only affects us, but it affects our lineage, as well. I’ll loop back around to today and the current solutions people are working on to improve our environment, but I think it’s important to reflect upon the last 50 years.

That’s right, 50 years.

The first Earth Day was in 1970 and was prompted by the affects that leaded fuel and industrial pollution were having on the Earth, as well as the people and animals who live in it. Back then, air pollution was considered “the smell of prosperity”. The general public was unconcerned, and most were unaware of the damage being done.

Inspired by an oil spill in Santa Barbara, California and the student anti-war protests, Senator Gaylord Nelson decided to schedule a “teach-in” on university campuses that would be reported through the national media. He brought on Pete McCloskey and Denis Hayes to help organize the event. The idea was to use the protesting voices of university students to catch the attention in the world and inspire change.

The result

The result was that the first Earth Day inspired 20 million Americans to join the fight against the affect of 150 years of industrialism. This 10% of the country poised themselves in the streets, auditoriums and many other places to give voice to the health concerns this pollution was raising. People joined each other in rallies that were country wide.

At the end of the year, the United States Environmental Protection Agency was created, and many environmental laws were put in place. 1970 also saw the beginning of the Occupational Safety and Health Act and the Clean Air Act.

Since then

Over the last 50 years, we have used Earth Day as a day to reflect upon what has happened, speculate what could happen, and put plans in place to slow down the damage being done. Since 1990, this day has been observed globally, but the power of many businesses, politicians, and lobbyists has drawn a line between those who stand to benefit financially from pollution and those who are a part of environmental activism.

Earth Day Network

Much of the credit for sparking environmental activism can be awarded to the Earth Day Network. This group engages people in protecting the planet and can be a step into the world of environmental activism.

Although the 1 billion people that are part of Earth Day are fighting to clean up the mess humans have made, the fight is becoming more pressing. We are witnessing climate change and can not escape it. We know about it and the danger we face but many don’t actively engage in cleaning up the mess.

Climate Action

Which leads us to the theme for Earth Day 2020, which is Climate Action, because climate change is inevitable, unless all countries make big strides towards improving the quality of the climate. I’ll post links below for those of you who want to know more and be a part of the solution.

Before you go…

But, before I do, I want to bring something to your attention. With Coronavirus affecting millions of people worldwide, it is an obvious pandemic. It’s important that we take the time to listen to experts in global health and other applicable professions. Although this virus is new to us, there are people that will be obviously better suited to answer questions about the virus.

What does the Coronavirus have to do with Earth Day?

You might be asking yourself “what does the Coronavirus have to do with Earth Day”? Bear with me. Alanna Shaikh is a global health journalist, involved in biosecurity and health systems and has a master’s degree in International Health from Boston University. In terms of global health expertise, on a scale of 1-10, she says she is about a 7 or an 8. She recently gave a Ted Talks and here’s what she had to say (paraphrased):

How it’s different

Coronaviruses are unique because they use RNA, instead of DNA to attach to the cells, using spikes like a crown. It’s a respiratory illness with symptoms which could go from cough and fever to deadly pneumonia. This range makes it difficult to identify. Additionally, it can transmit from animals to people and from people to people.

This virus is a result of how we have treated our planet.

I bring this up because this virus is a result of how we have treated our planet. Climate change is part of it, but it is also due to burning down rainforests and converting African bush to farms. This leads to the discovery of new species and new groups of people, which also introduces us to viruses we are not ready for (Shaikh, 2020).

To understand where we’re going…

Obviously, we are more focused on avoiding catching it and the treatment for it right now, but it helps to understand where it came from, because if we don’t know how we caused the problem, we won’t know how to prevent it from happening again.

This is a wake-up call that’s hard to accept. Obviously, most of us benefit from the advances in industry and other modern conveniences but if you consider what is happening with the oil market, you’ll notice something.

Consider this.

From being at home, we have used so little oil, compared to normal that the oil market was in the negatives, earlier this month. They are running out of places to store the oil. Now think about what that means- If we are using such a small amount of oil now, that could lead to a large decrease in pollution. Before we go patting ourselves on the back about that, it’s important to remember we did not do this intentionally. However, we now know a large reduction in oil consumption could be done. Consider what would happen if everyone vowed not to drive their car 1 day a month, simultaneously. That is what Earth Day is about. It’s about finding a way to make a difference and give life back to the Earth, which so graciously gave life to us.

Thank you.

Thanks for reading. I’ll leave links to the Tedx and to the Earth Day website so you can explore more information on these two topics.

References:

From Earth Day:

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